The psychologist Polina Fursova warns that some typical questions from parents about kindergarten can negatively affect their children's emotional state.
She notes that phrases like: “Are they not hurting you there?” or “Did they not yell at you in kindergarten today?” can create a sense in the child that kindergarten is a potentially dangerous place.
“If a parent asks such questions daily, they unintentionally convey to the child that kindergarten may pose a threat, and this concerns me,” explains Fursova.
According to the specialist, such communication can lead to various consequences. Children begin to focus on the negative aspects of others' behavior, and even simple accidental incidents, such as collisions during play, can be perceived as offenses. Moreover, at the age of 3 to 4, little ones strive to please their parents and may invent stories to meet expectations.
The child may also pick up on the parents' anxiety and start to doubt the safety of their surroundings.
Instead, the psychologist recommends asking open-ended questions that allow the child to freely share their impressions. For example:
“What was the most interesting thing today?”
“Who did you play with today?”
“What made you laugh today?”
“Was there anything you didn’t like?”
